Depression and low self-esteem often go hand-in-hand.

Low self-esteem can leave individuals vulnerable to depression and depression often batters self-esteem. People with low self-esteem often feel shame and self-doubt. They often spend lots of time criticising themselves. Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. That means self-esteem isn't fixed – and so, therefore, it can change. It can be difficult to break habits but there are steps you can take to feel better about yourself, bit by bit.

Firstly, I work with you to identify the sources of your low self-esteem, any negative thought patterns you have and where they started from. Taking an objective view of personal history can help you see your present situation more clearly without feeling blamed. You can also see if early patterns and habits are repeated in your current relationships.

I use techniques to improve awareness of your inner critic, and any negative self-beliefs and behavioural patterns attached to this. By becoming aware you can begin to change your thoughts and feelings into more positive ones, as well as working towards confidence and self-love.

I also help you to set boundaries, as often people with low self-esteem find it hard to say ‘no’. I will also spend time working with positive thoughts, and inviting you to do some tasks to improve self-esteem. Some suggestions include:

Write a list of what you like about yourself.
Connect with people who make you feel good.
Accept compliments.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Make a self-esteem collage.
Reinforce a good self-image with affirmations.
Replace negative thoughts with positive ones.

Regardless of the factors contributing to one's low self-esteem, with counselling, it is possible to develop a healthy relationship with oneself. Growing self-awareness enables you to access the nurturing, validating parts of yourself, therefore, growing your self-esteem.